Protecting yourself from domestic violence

 

Domestic violence is not only physical, but also psychological and sexual. If you don't leave this situation immediately, risk serious injury , interference with health , until death , lurk in front of your eyes.

Domestic violence is all threats, harassment, and violence both physically, psychologically, and sexual relationship between two people who are tied to personal relationships or to other family members. Domestic violence perpetrators can also be ex-spouses even though they have separated. All people can have the opportunity to become perpetrators or victims of domestic violence. But in fact, most victims of domestic violence in Indonesia are women. A survey survey found that about 30 percent of Indonesian women had experienced domestic violence. Some even occur since pregnant women.

On the other hand, even though it is considered a stronger party, violence can also be experienced by men, especially men who are in same-sex relationships. This situation can also be more difficult for men, because they do not want to be called weaker than their partners.

Domestic violence is also not uncommon in transgender, bisexual, and lesbian people. The perpetrators of violence against this group often convince their victims that the police will not help someone who likes same-sex, or they can threaten to spread the victim's sexual orientation to others.

Various types of domestic violence

Violence is not only physical, but also psychological and sexual that can occur continuously. Threats with weapons and death are the biggest risks that can arise if domestic violence is not stopped. Signs of physical violence in the household can be very real, for example in the form of cuts and bruises. But psychological violence can only be felt by victims, such as stress and depression.

A woman may not know that she is experiencing domestic violence. Check the following signs to find out if you have been or are experiencing domestic violence.

• Emotional violence:
  • Couples criticize or insult you in public.
  • Couples blame you for their rude behavior and say that you deserve it.
  • You often feel afraid of your partner.
  • You change certain habits or behaviors to avoid angry couples.
  • Couples forbid you to work or continue your studies.
  • Couples forbid you to meet family or friends.
  • Couples accuse you of having an affair and are always suspicious if You look close or talk to other people.
  • Couples always thirst for attention for irrational reasons.
• Intimidation and threats :
  • Couples have thrown or destroyed your goods.
  • Couples constantly follow and want to know about your situation.
  • Couples threaten to kill themselves or kill your child.
  • Couples always check your personal things, read your short messages and e-mails.
  • The clothes you wear or the food you consume are controlled by it.
  • Couples limit the money you hold so you cannot buy essential needs for yourself and your child.
  • Harassment of religion , disability or lack of physical, ethnic, racial, or social strata between partners can also be categorized as domestic violence.
• Physical violence
  
  • Couples hit, slap, kick, strangle, pull hair, even burn your limbs and/ your child.
  • Tie you or lock you in the house.
  • Addictions to drinks alcoholic and/ or illegal drugs, and behave rudely after consuming these substances.
• Sexual violence:
  
  • He forces you to do something you don't want to do, including sexual intercourse.
  • He touches your sensitive body in an inappropriate way.
  • He hurts you during sexual intercourse.
  • He Forces you to have sex with someone else.
  • He forces you not to wear condoms or tools other contraception.

After committing domestic violence, your partner may apologize and promise not to repeat the mistake, even giving a gift to redeem his guilt. But in fact, domestic violence keeps repeating.

Saving Yourself

Efforts to get out of a violent relationship are often not easy. Financial dependence can make women often survive in this dangerous situation. Not infrequently, victims of domestic violence who try to escape get violence that is even worse if caught. Husbands who torture their wives also often do not want their wives to take their children away.

The longer they survive in the domestic violence situation, the greater the threat that threatens. Not only to yourself, but also to children. If you have long wanted to get out of a life of violence and pressure, here are steps that can be a guide:

• Tell your condition to the closest person you can trust. Make sure the offender is not around when you inform this.
• Document your injuries with the camera. Save carefully.
• Record the violent behavior you receive and the time it occurs.
• Avoid fighting violence with violence, because it risks making the offender act more extreme.
• If you are ready to leave home:
  • Carefully, prepare a bag containing all your important needs. Bring along personal important documents, such as identity cards, money, and medicines. Place the bag in a safe and hidden place.
  • Use a number and/ or a new communication tool to communicate, just in case you don't track it. Likewise with your computer and e-mail. Actors may check what pages you open and with whom you communicate. Change keywords to enter your e-mail and delete information wherever you can surf the internet.
  • Know exactly where you are going and how to reach that location. In this case, you can ask someone for help to pick up at a place.
  • If you bring your own vehicle, remove the GPS device or track the location of the vehicle.

In addition, although domestic violence may only happen to one partner and does not occur in children, children who witness violence have the risk of growing into individuals who also like to do violence. Children who often witness violence are also at risk of experiencing psychic disorders, aggressive behavior, and low self-esteem.

In Indonesia, in the Domestic Violence Law article 26 paragraph 1, states that only victims can report acts of domestic violence this to the police. However, Article 15 of the Domestic Violence Law states that everyone who hears, sees, or knows the occurrence of domestic violence must make an effort to prevent acts of violence, provide assistance and protection, and help the process of filing protection.

Victims Domestic violence can report acts of violence experienced by him at the One Service public service center, Integrated Service Center for Empowering Women and Children, the National Women's Commission, or the Women's and Children's Services unit in the resort police in each region.